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Monday 13 May 2024

The Life Of Kathe : Mother's Day

Wishing all the Mums out there a Happy Mother's Day.

This sincere message is going out to all the Mums, StepMums, WanaBeMums, TryingToBeMums FurMums, GrandMums, SisterMums, AuntieMums, Mums who have lost a child, Fathers who have lost their childs Mother figure, and Fathers who are in same-sex relationships, and taken on both roles as Mother and Father.

For many Mums, they look forward to Mother's Day, but to others, including myself, Mother's Day is a Trigger, along with other certain days, like Easter and Christmas.

It's funny looking back ... as a Child people would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up?

My answer was always to be a "Mother", but I soon learned that people didn't like that answer, they wanted a Career, so I made it up, now I wanted to be a "Chartered Accountant".
That later changed to "Forensic Pathologist".

For me, I spend Mother's Day on the verge of Tears, and do cry several times during the day.

As a Mother, I feel inadequate, because I was never able to get down on the floor and play with them as babies.

I wasn't able to breastfeed either of my babies {because of my health}, who were 17 months apart.

The Kiddos were never put in Day Care, or as my friends called it "School".

Because I have been sick most of my Adult life due to a Jet Boat accident in 1996, I constantly worry that this has impacted on my kid's lives.

As the kids grew up, we took heaps of photos, but I was always insecure about my appearance, and have less than a handful of photos with me and the kids.

Literally, these are all the Photos of us together.

When Reilly was about five months old, I was diagnosed with Post Natal Depression, which has now developed into "Long Term Depression", and I have been on Meds since I was 19 years old.

I am so proud of Reilly, as he graduates from University this week with Honours, in a "Bachelor of Engineering", with a Specialist in Computer Science.
Reilly is already employed as a Software Engineer at a BIG company in Wellington, on more $ than my Hubby earns!

JorjaRose still lives at home with us, and has been working at The Warehouse for 3 years now.
She is very Artistic, and loves to spend her days reading, or putting Kit Sets together - like our new {Work In Progress} Bathrooms!

Please do not get me wrong, being a Mother has been my greatest accomplishment so far, and I told my daughter so last week.
Of the last 30 years I have been through, my/our Kiddos have pulled me through times of Depression, two Spinal Op's with another 2 needed + a total reconstruction of my Ankle/Foot next year, and numerous accidents, where they {as Kiddos} had to call the Ambulance.
I fought like hell to have a family, like many other women, after having 2 Miscarriages.

With both Kiddos, I didn't find out what we were expecting, when Reilly was born unplanned on Rubbish Bags at our new Home {Yes, another Chapter}, we named him "Reilly John", John is a family name, and "JorjaRose" was saved for later, if we were fortunate enough to get a baby girl.

Their initials are actually switched, RJ and JR, and I have a Ying Yang Tattoo {from 20 years ago!!!} with 2 Dolphins chasing each other on my lower back - yes a Tramp Stamp!

Whilst pregnant with {pregnancy #4} JorjaRose, I lost my Memory, and got severe "Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction" {when the Pelvis separates}.
By 31 weeks, I was on Crutches with 2 Smiley Belts {to winch my Pelvis closed}, and a double TubiGrip {elasitacate Bandage} that supported me from mid-Thigh to under the Bust.
I was eventually hospitalised and in a Wheel Chair for a week, before she was induced at 38/3.
When she finally arrived {that is a whole Chapter on it's own}, I couldn't believe I had a baby girl, after all that I had gone through to get her.

As I always wanted to be a Mum, I worked my hardest to be there for them both, most people assumed I had twins as they were the same size.

I went back to work when JorjaRose was one year old to the day!
Fortunately, I was able to spend the day with the Kiddos, and I worked a Night Shift, from 4pm on - way past midnight, as a "Duty Manager" in an expensive Resort Hotel for 3 and a 1/4 years, that started 01.08.2004

Apart from my insecurities about being a "good Mother", what hurts the most about Mother's Day for me, is that my Kiddos hardly ever acknowledge it.

This year, I got a Text from my 22-year-old son, and my 20-year-old daughter has not mentioned a bean about Mother's Day today.

In the past I have been so upset, and have brought it up more than once to my hubby, and he would say, "Well you're not my Mother"! 
I would reply with "No, but I am the Mother of your Children and you need to act on their behalf".

Mother's Day has also affected my own Mother, as because I am so sad on Mother's Day, the last thing I want to do is pop around and be a happy dutiful Daughter, when literally some Mother's Day{s} I have spent curled up in bed crying.

Today I went out of my way to make my Mum feel special.
I gave her a handmade Card with a Bookmark, a Photo Collage, a Cadbury Moro, and a Richmond Mall Voucher, plus I drove around to her house and shared a cupper with her this afternoon.

AND I sang her "Happy Mother's Day" twice!

I explained to Mum how much Mother's Day affects me {in Tears}, and she assured me she has some photos tucked away of me and the Kiddos, but in the interim, this is all that I have.

My hope is that if I am fortunate enough to become a Gran/Nana, I will teach my Grandbabies the importance of being thankful towards their Parents, and that Mother's Day and Father's Day should be "Any Day", as every day we should be thankful for what we have.

Last week, I decided to start "My Next Chapter", so I am taking photos of myself {and with the Kiddos}, Posting online, and sharing my Truth.

So the moral to my story about Mother's Day is Social Media is F A K E  

We are all faking it, and pretending that we are "Happy" and "Cherry" with our Posts about Mother's Day, but deep down, some of us are crying on the inside.

I want you to know you are not alone.   I cry with you.

"The Life Of Kathe" : One Step At A Time ...

 "The Life Of Kathe" : The Next Chapter, One Step At A Time ...

Went to the Orthopedic Surgeon on Friday for my Ankle, that had been giving me jip since Feb 2023.

Originally diagnosed with "Tibialis Posterior Tenosynovitis", the Tendon is now hanging on by a thread, and I need full-blown Foot Reconstruction Surgery - where they disengage the Heel and realign/break numerous Bones!!!

6 months in a Moon Boot, and 12 months to recover!

Mum and Dad came round with Flowers Saturday morning, and WayneO bought me a Muffin for Lunch!

Oh well, just as well I am in my Next Chapter!!!

The Life Of Kathe : My Next Chapter ...


💜 Looking forward to "The Next Chapter" ....
On a whim, dyed my Hair on Friday, and then told the Grumble "We are moving forward, today is a new day"!!!
I am now 10 Weeks Post Op., and have an amazing Occupational Therapist Marli @ TBI Health Group New Zealand, and I am working with a Team of Professionals helping me with Physio, HydroTherapy, Occupational Therapy etc.
I still require two more Spinal Op.'s and I am going to get them.
Here's to moving forward one step at a time 👣
I want to say a special thanks to💚"Mint hair"💚, who fitted me in on Friday, revamped my look, and even gave me a beautiful gift being my first time there!
@Followers @Anyone @Friends @Everybody @Everyone
💜 Hair by Mint hair
💜 Makeup by Kathe

Saturday 11 May 2024

Please Help In Danielle's Lipoedema Journey ...

Please Help In Danielle's Lipoedema Journey ... 

I just received the heartbreaking news that my friend's daughter Danielle {Dani - 24 years old} is very poorly {Stage 3}, with a disease called "Lipoedema".

Danielle Thake is a 24-year-old Mother, who has a beautiful 6-year-old daughter. 

She has been living with a rare disease known as "Lipoedema", that was unrecognised for six years.
She has recently been diagnosed with early Stage 3 of the disease. 

Lipoedema is a chronic progressive inflammatory fat disease, caused when inflamed tissues accumulate under the skin and progress into other areas of the body. 

Over time Lipoedema progresses up the Legs, eventually to the Neck, and will attack vital Organs. 

Lipoedema is not to be confused for Lymphoedema or Obesity, and it is a disease that cannot be exercised or dieted away.

Dani has restricted mobility, and suffers the physical and psychological burden of this disease on a day-to-day basis.
Dani is in constant pain, with swollen, heavy, and achy Legs, that feel like her Legs are encased in concrete.
The Lipoedema has now traveled past her Legs and Thighs, and it is now affecting Dani's Back and Arms as well.

Danielle has tried multiple public and private approaches in the New Zealand health care system, yet has been Declined any help.
This includes Blood Test{s} $350, and measuring her legs for special support tights that are to be worn for 8 weeks before Surgery.
A Specialist is now having to fly to Nelson from Aussie this week, to measure Dani's Legs, after the NMDHB refused!

Fortunately, Danielle is now a patient of "Lipoedema Surgical Solution"' in Queensland, Australia, who specialises in this disease. 

Dani and her Mum Wendy have been traveling to her Appointments in Australia, in readiness for her to advance to the next stage, of her "Extraction Surgeries", in which Dani is needing a total of 5 Surgeries.

So if you can donate in any way to her "Give A Little" page, I know the Thake family, Dani and her daughter especially, would be immensely grateful.

#GiveALittle #Lipoedema #LipoedemaAwareness #RichmondGirlThroughandThrough #WaimeaSupporter #WOBRFC   

Friday 23 July 2021

ModgePodging Wooden Coat Hangers ...

ModgePodging Wooden Coat Hangers ...

If you're looking to create a handmade gift, that is inexpensive, but still holds a personal touch, then try ModgePodging Wooden Coat Hangers.

All you need is ...

  • One Serviette per Coat Hanger
  • Wooden Coat Hangers
  • ModgePodge

You will need to remove the Ply's till you get to the 1 top Ply {the patterned Serviette often come in 2 or 3 Ply}, smooth ModgePodge onto the Coat Hanger, start along the base first by cutting a strip off, then rip and layer until the Coat Hanger is covered.
Allow to air dry, but separate the Coat Hangers, as they may stick to each other.
If you are in a hurry, then use a Heat Tool to speed up the drying process.
My Coat Hangers were all made with the same patterned Serviette, but each turned out differently.

You can usually purchase Serviettes in the singles from your local craft shop, such as "The Creative Craft Room" in Stoke.

Wah-lah ... a handmade personal gift, ideal for Mothers Day or Christmas!

Whilst trying to write this article for my website The JorjaRose Files, and they be like sitting on my legs!!!
Momma Madi on the bottom, left is Maisy-Daisy, and top right is Chonky Boy Felix The Pug 🐾🐕💖

Monday 19 July 2021

My Best Friend's Gender Reveal Party ...

My Best Friend's Gender Reveal Party ...

What do you do when your best friend tells you that she is pregnant ... start planning the Gender Reveal Party of course!

On Saturday, Aleisha and Ryan celebrated their new baby boy due December 2021, and also revealed they are pregnant with twins!!!
We find out the gender of the second twin in three weeks.
I knew of course, but have had to keep it quiet these past 17 weeks, which was oh so hard!

Aleisha wanted to do a Gift Table, so that each guest went home with a handmade gift.
There were 60 gifts that I made, ranging from Calendar Fridge Magnets, Calendar Notebooks and Decorated 3B1 Notebooks, what a BIG job!!!

I also made two framed artworks for the Nursery, and a cute matching card.
There were little details on the framed artworks, like the Teddy Bear holding the Calendar with December written on it.
I always add a tonne of pearls, but always odd numbers, like 3 large Pearls, and 5 small Pearls ...

I hope you enjoy the medley of ALL these photos taken at the Baby Shower, and of the gifts I made ...

"Photo Wall and Grazing Table"

"Grazing Table"

"Drinks Table"

"Gift Table"

And these are the Gifts I made, first off the Mini Calendar Fridge Magenets ...

And the Mini Calendar Notebooks ...

Whenever I have a bulk order to make, I always precut everything then make in an assembly line ...

I was really honoured that Aleisha asked my daughter JorjaRose to be the Photographer/Videographer at the party.
From my family to yours, wishing you all the best for the journey ahead Aleisha and Ryan ... with TWINS!

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